Individual Psychology

Parts of the Four Phases to Alderian Therapy can be adapted to establshing a positive relationship in the classroom.

Phase 1: Establishing the Relationship

        Earning trust through acceptance and encouragement

Phase 2:  Exploring Individual Dynamics

        Understanding the individual's lifestyle, private logic, faulty assumptions

        Lifestyle questionnaire

        Early recollections

        Uncovering priorities (superiority, control, comfort, pleasing others)

Phase 3:  Encourageing Insight

        Tentative Interpretations or Hypotheses:  Could it be that...

        Recognition Reflect

Phase 4:  Re-Education and Reorientation

        Learning to adopt a more constructive lifestyle


Parenting Principles:  Parents must learn to step back and let the child learn from the consequences of his / her own behavior.

   Mutual Repect


   Feelings of Security

   Avoiding reward and punishment

   Using natural and logical consequences

          Natural consequences; e.g., Tommy refuses to wear his coat when it is raining - he will get wet

          Logical consequences are established by the parents and are direct and logical consequences of the  
          behavior; e.g., Mary refuses to eat her lunch - she will be hungry until snack time.

   Acting instead of talking

   Don't interfere with children's fights

   Take time for teaching the child

   Never do for a child what he can do for himself

   Overprotection pushes a child down

   Over responsible parents produce irresponsible children

   Distinguish between positive and negative attention

   Understand the child's goal

   Minimize mistakes

   Family meetings

   Have fun together