Individual Psychology
Parts of the Four Phases to Alderian Therapy can be adapted to establshing a positive relationship in the classroom.
Phase 1: Establishing the Relationship
Earning trust through acceptance and encouragement
Phase 2: Exploring Individual Dynamics
Understanding the individual's lifestyle, private logic, faulty assumptions
Lifestyle questionnaire
Early recollections
Uncovering priorities (superiority, control, comfort, pleasing others)
Phase 3: Encourageing Insight
Tentative Interpretations or Hypotheses: Could it be that...
Recognition Reflect
Phase 4: Re-Education and Reorientation
Learning to adopt a more constructive lifestyle
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Parenting Principles: Parents must learn to step back and let the child learn from the consequences of his / her own behavior.
Mutual Repect
Encouragement
Feelings of Security
Avoiding reward and punishment
Using natural and logical consequences
Natural consequences; e.g., Tommy refuses to wear his coat when it is raining - he will get wet
Logical consequences are established by the parents and are direct and logical consequences of the
behavior; e.g., Mary refuses to eat her lunch - she will be hungry until snack time.
Acting instead of talking
Don't interfere with children's fights
Take time for teaching the child
Never do for a child what he can do for himself
Overprotection pushes a child down
Over responsible parents produce irresponsible children
Distinguish between positive and negative attention
Understand the child's goal
Minimize mistakes
Family meetings
Have fun together